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Is an Egg Donor Pregnancy Different?

The egg donation process is over, and now you’re thrilled to see that your pregnancy test result is positive. What comes next?

Many intended parents who’ve experienced a successful donation cycle are understandably equal parts excited and wary. The road to a positive pregnancy test post-donation cycle isn’t always easy, and intended parents are hopeful for a healthy, smooth pregnancy. One of the more common questions asked by growing families is whether the egg donor pregnancy will differ from a non-donor pregnancy.

From a medical point of view, the short answer is no. You will transition from your fertility clinic to an obstetrician’s care, so he or she will be able to provide details on the health of your pregnancy and whether any precautions should be taken from a medical standpoint.

The real question intended parents are asking when they ask if an egg donor pregnancy is different is this: Will I feel different than I would have if the egg were my own?

Bonding with your baby
A common thought from intended parents who used an egg donor is the acknowledgment that an egg donor was chosen because a child was so desired between a couple that they used third-party reproduction to build their family, yet the concern about the ability to bond remains. How can you want something so much that you’ll undergo the physical, emotional and financial commitments of fertility treatment only to later face concerns about a lack of bond or experience a lack of bond with the baby while pregnant?

First of all, you need to remember that everyone really is different. No one expects intended parents to immediately feel a strong bond with their baby during pregnancy, though if you do, that’s perfectly normal as well. We all face a lot of internal and external pressure to conform to what we “think” is normal as a society, and there’s an underlying train of thought that we’re doing something wrong if we don’t think or feel a certain way.

Concerns about bonding with your baby post-donor cycle are expected. It’s a very common anxiety, especially for women carrying the pregnancy. We offer the scientific side of the argument to help ease concerns, with studies that clearly indicate your baby will actually bond with you relatively quickly:

  • Babies can recognize their mother’s voice prior to birth.
    • They display selective reactions to their mother’s voice and touch as early as the second trimester (Source).

This means that even if you are facing concerns about bonding on your end, you should know that any concerns about your baby’s ability to bond with you are unfounded.

Giving yourself a break
Our top advice for intended parents who worry that their egg donor pregnancy will be different because they won’t be able to bond with the baby is to simply relax (as best as you can). Your OB is available for any medical questions you may have, but if you are truly concerned about bonding, he or she can provide additional advice. Bonding with your baby can happen right away, or over time, and either one is 100% OK. The important thing to remember is that your family is growing as you wished it to.

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