Ten Mistakes to Avoid When Using an Egg Donor
Searching for the right egg donor for your family and navigating the egg donation process can seem like a long and overwhelming journey. Fortunately, experienced case managers like those at Egg Donor America can aid in every step along the road to parenthood, from finding an egg donor who meets your ideal criteria, to selecting a fertility center, to providing a template for an egg donor agreement once a match is made. From the moment you choose to use an egg donor to the moment your cycle is complete, Egg Donor America advises intended parents to do these 10 things to avoid common mistakes when going through the egg donation process.
- Don’t move forward with egg donation until you’re ready.
For couples or individuals facing an infertility diagnosis and who need an egg donor, it’s important not to rush into the donation process until you’re truly ready to do so. Moving from unsuccessful fertility treatments to egg donation should not be forced. Take the time you need to consider egg donation carefully before contacting a reputable egg donor agency.
- Don’t forget to do your research.
Just like fertility specialists, egg donor agencies can be experienced and qualified, or they can be less than desirable. Research your egg donor agency with the same level of care and attention that you will give when selecting your actual egg donor. Your agency case manager will be the person you go to with every question or concern, so he or she should be knowledgeable and prepared to handle every step of the process.
- Don’t believe egg donation myths.
Even today, myths about egg donation persist. Couples and individuals may seek an egg donor for a variety of reasons, and concerns about how egg donation works can be clarified by Egg Donor America’s case managers or your chosen fertility specialist.
- Don’t ignore client or patient testimonials.
Client and patient testimonials offer first-hand accounts of what it’s like to work with a certain egg donor agency. Ask your agency and fertility clinic if you can access or read their most recent patient testimonials.
- Don’t insist on a long list of egg donor criteria.
A long, detailed list of specific egg donor criteria can severely limit the number of egg donors who you can use. Egg Donor America encourages prospective parents to be flexible with their criteria in order to maximize their options during the selection process.
- Don’t ignore other characteristics outside of a donor’s physical appearance.
More and more prospective parents are considering the importance of other donor qualities over looks. Many future parents are placing a higher priority on a donor’s education and hobbies over her height or hair color.
- Don’t put aside your wishes for an egg donor agreement.
It’s very important that everyone involved in an egg donor agreement is entirely honest about their expectations prior to signing off. If you wish for your egg donor to remain anonymous, then it should be known up front. If you wish to have some kind of relationship with your donor post-cycle, this should be discussed early in the process.
- Don’t ignore your questions or concerns.
If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to address them at any point during the egg donation process without reserve. It’s better to clear your head than to be worried about an issue.
- Don’t put off your plan to discuss egg donation with family and friends.
Your level of openness regarding egg donation is entirely up to you, but it can be helpful to plan ahead and know beforehand what you will and will not share with family.
- Don’t forget to seek support.
There are many organizations and forums who are dedicated to supporting those using third-party reproduction, including egg donation-specific groups, to build their families. Support groups can be online or in-person, and they can cater to men-only or women-only groups if preferred.